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Essential Principles of Problem Solving - graphic
Essential Principles of Problem Solving - Description
See Clearly with an Open Heart
Stop the build-up of Tension
Proper sleep, diet, balance between
rest and types of activity
Balance personal needs with needs of others
See situation as starting point without blame, judgment, or “should”
See the dignity and potential of people involved
Recognize and adapt to limitations
Ask questions to see a larger picture
and relevant details more clearly
Immediate, short-term, long-term, or ongoing? What’s
What are the: values? boundaries? assumptions? expectations? Etc.
Compassion recognizes the dignity and potential of each person. It involves
looking at life from another person’s perspective without judgment while understanding how circumstances contributed
to forming his or her behavior, attitude, and outlook. True Compassion requires the capacity to briefly experience the
emotions of another. It allows other people to be fully themselves in our presence. Compassion connects, includes,
and opens. It is not a thought or idea. It’s something we experience. People are touched by compassion
and it allows us to be in touch with them.
Hope recognizes there is a best
way to handle every situation and that each one of us has an inborn capacity to improve our lives and world.
Humility recognizes that placing ourselves above or below another person diminishes
us both. Humility allows us to see ourselves as part of a greater whole, to realize that we have an important but limited
role, and to explore how and where we best fit in contributing to and improving our world.
Personal Responsibility looks at what I can do to improve the situation while taking into account
what others have to contribute without blame, judgment or “should.”