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Week 7

(#43) 2/12

                The Miraculous Catch of Fish

Luke 5:1-11

Once while Jesus was standing beside the lake of Gennesaret, and the crowd was pressing in on him to hear the word of God, he saw two boats there at the shore of the lake; the fishermen had gone out of them and were washing their nets.  He got into one of the boats, the one belonging to Simon, and asked him to put out a little way from the shore. Then he sat down and taught the crowds from the boat.

When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into the deep water and let down your nets for a catch.”  Simon answered, “Master, we have worked all night long but have caught nothing. Yet if you say so, I will let down the nets.”   When they had done this, they caught so many fish that their nets were beginning to break.  So they signaled their partners in the other boat to come and help them. And they came and filled both boats, so that they began to sink. 

But when Simon Peter saw it, he fell down at Jesus’ knees, saying, “Go away from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man!”  For he and all who were with him were amazed at the catch of fish that they had taken; and so also were James and John, sons of Zebedee, who were partners with Simon. Then Jesus said to Simon, “Do not be afraid; from now on you will be catching people.”  When they had brought their boats to shore, they left everything and followed him.

 What a difference love makes.  Simon, James, and John had been fishing all their lives.  They catch nothing after working all night.  But when Jesus joins them, it makes all the difference in the world. There are things we do everyday that we may have done all our lives.  We can ask Jesus to join us in these moments and see the difference it makes. 

Anything we do can be done better with love.

  

Principles of Love:

Opening; Commitment; Unity

Reflection/Discussion:

How can Jesus join in our daily activities and relationships?

 Pray through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your love

   

(#44) 2/13

     A Leper is Cleansed

Matthew 8:1-4

When Jesus had come down from the mountain, great crowds followed him; and there was a leper who came to him and knelt before him, saying, “Lord, if you choose, you can make me clean.”  He stretched out his hand and touched him, saying, “I do choose. Be made clean!” Immediately his leprosy was cleansed.   Then Jesus said to him, “See that you say nothing to anyone; but go, show yourself to the priest, and offer the gift that Moses commanded, as a testimony to them.”

Mark 1:40-45

A leper came to him begging him, and kneeling he said to him, “If you choose, you can make me clean.”  Moved with pity, Jesus stretched out his hand and touched him, and said to him, “I do choose. Be made clean!”   Immediately the leprosy left him, and he was made clean.  After sternly warning him he sent him away at once, saying to him, “See that you say nothing to anyone; but go, show yourself to the priest, and offer for your cleansing what Moses commanded, as a testimony to them.”  But he went out and began to proclaim it freely, and to spread the word, so that Jesus could no longer go into a town openly, but stayed out in the country; and people came to him from every quarter.

Luke 5:12-16

Once, when he was in one of the cities, there was a man covered with leprosy. When he saw Jesus, he bowed with his face to the ground and begged him, “Lord, if you choose, you can make me clean.”   Then Jesus stretched out his hand, touched him, and said, “I do choose. Be made clean.” Immediately the leprosy left him.  And he ordered him to tell no one. “Go,” he said, “and show yourself to the priest, and, as Moses commanded, make an offering for your cleansing, for a testimony to them.”  But now more than ever the word about Jesus spread abroad; many crowds would gather to hear him and to be cured of their diseases.  But he would withdraw to deserted places and pray.

 “Jesus TOUCHED him.”   Leprosy was one of the most feared and dreaded diseases of the time.  Lepers lived in isolation.  No one would go near, let alone touch them.  Anyone touching a leper would be considered unclean and impure and would not be allowed to enter the temple. Still, Jesus reaches out and touches him. If Jesus chooses to touch a leper, he will also choose to touch us - even when we may have acted in ways that are unclean or impure.  He also encourages us to open our hearts and touch others no matter who they are, or what they have done. 
Principles of Love:

Acceptance; Compassion

Reflection/Discussion:

What makes it difficult for us to accept some people?

Pray through the Day:

Not my will

But yours be done

 

   

(#45) 2/14

Jesus Heals a Man Who is Paralyzed

Matthew 9:2-8

And just then some people were carrying a paralyzed man lying on a bed. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Take heart, son; your sins are forgiven.”  Then some of the scribes said to themselves, “This man is blaspheming.”   But Jesus, perceiving their thoughts, said, “Why do you think evil in your hearts?  For which is easier, to say, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Stand up and walk’?  But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he then said to the paralytic—“Stand up, take your bed and go to your home.”  And he stood up and went to his home.  When the crowds saw it, they were filled with awe, and they glorified God, who had given such authority to human beings.

Mark 2:1-12

When he returned to Capernaum after some days, it was reported that he was at home.   So many gathered around that there was no longer room for them, not even in front of the door; and he was speaking the word to them.   Then some people came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them.  And when they could not bring him to Jesus because of the crowd, they removed the roof above him; and after having dug through it, they let down the mat on which the paralytic lay.  When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

Now some of the scribes were sitting there, questioning in their hearts, “Why does this fellow speak in this way? It is blasphemy! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”  At once Jesus perceived in his spirit that they were discussing these questions among themselves; and he said to them, “Why do you raise such questions in your hearts?  Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Stand up and take your mat and walk’?  But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he said to the paralytic— “I say to you, stand up, take your mat and go to your home.”  And he stood up, and immediately took the mat and went out before all of them; so that they were all amazed and glorified God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!”

Luke 5:17-26

One day, while he was teaching, Pharisees and teachers of the law were sitting near by (they had come from every village of Galilee and Judea and from Jerusalem); and the power of the Lord was with him to heal.  Just then some men came, carrying a paralyzed man on a bed. They were trying to bring him in and lay him before Jesus;  but finding no way to bring him in because of the crowd, they went up on the roof and let him down with his bed through the tiles into the middle of the crowd in front of Jesus.  When he saw their faith, he said, “Friend, your sins are forgiven you.”  

Then the scribes and the Pharisees began to question, “Who is this who is speaking blasphemies? Who can forgive sins but God alone?”  When Jesus perceived their questionings, he answered them, “Why do you raise such questions in your hearts?  Which is easier, to say, ‘Your sins are forgiven you,’ or to say, ‘Stand up and walk’?  But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he said to the one who was paralyzed—“I say to you, stand up and take your bed and go to your home.”  Immediately he stood up before them, took what he had been lying on, and went to his home, glorifying God.  Amazement seized all of them, and they glorified God and were filled with awe, saying, “We have seen strange things today.”

 Both the paralytic and the Pharisees confronted obstacles to being with Jesus.  The caring friends of the paralytic helped him to surmount the barriers and come closer to Jesus, while the Pharisees allowed their righteousness and judgmental attitude to push them further away from his healing love. 

Our world presents daily obstacles to love.  We must choose whether to figure out how to move closer to Jesus like the paralytic and his friends, or to allow our self-centered impulses to lead us away from him like the Pharisees. 

 If we have heart, like the friends of the paralytic, we will eventually find a way to move closer to Jesus and each other.  If we lose heart by being judgmental and miserly like the Pharisees, we will fail to recognize Jesus even when his is in our midst. 
Principles of Love:

Compassion; Unity

Reflection/Discussion:

What are some barriers in our daily lives that could block our path to Jesus?

Pray through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your creation

   

(#46) 2/15

        Matthew Decides to Follow Jesus

Matthew 9:9-13

As Jesus was walking along, he saw a man called Matthew sitting at the tax booth; and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he got up and followed him.

And as he sat at dinner in the house, many tax collectors and sinners came and were sitting with him and his disciples.  When the Pharisees saw this, they said to his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”  But when he heard this, he said, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick.  Go and learn what this means, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have come to call not the righteous but sinners.”

Mark 2: 13-17

Jesus went out again beside the sea; the whole crowd gathered around him, and he taught them.  As he was walking along, he saw Levi son of Alphaeus sitting at the tax booth, and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he got up and followed him.

And as he sat at dinner in Levi’s house, many tax collectors and sinners were also sitting with Jesus and his disciples—for there were many who followed him.   When the scribes of the Pharisees saw that he was eating with sinners and tax collectors, they said to his disciples, “Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?”  When Jesus heard this, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick; I have come to call not the righteous but sinners.”

Luke 5:27-32

After this he went out and saw a tax collector named Levi, sitting at the tax booth; and he said to him, “Follow me.”  And he got up, left everything, and followed him.

Then Levi gave a great banquet for him in his house; and there was a large crowd of tax collectors and others sitting at the table with them.   The Pharisees and their scribes were complaining to his disciples, saying, “Why do you eat and drink with tax collectors and sinners?”  Jesus answered, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick;   I have come to call not the righteous but sinners to repentance.”

  Why doesn’t Jesus call “the righteous?”   The Pharisees were among the most devout Jews of the time.  They tithed, sacrificed, and followed every one of the hundreds of rules and rituals of their religion.  Jesus doesn’t call them because he knows they can’t hear him. “ The righteous” hold strong beliefs and act in pious ways, but they are self-centered.  Selfishness is the opposite of love.  We cannot receive or give love to the extent that self-gratification dominates our vision or motivation.   “...If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13:3) 
Principles of Love:

Acceptance; Opening

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we be aware when we are beginning to become self-righteousness?

Pray through the Day:

Not my will

But yours be done

   

(#47) 2/16

    A Question About Fasting

Matthew 9:14-17

Then the disciples of John came to him, saying, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast often, but your disciples do not fast?”  And Jesus said to them, “The wedding guests cannot mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them, can they? The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast.  No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old cloak, for the patch pulls away from the cloak, and a worse tear is made.  Neither is new wine put into old wineskins; otherwise, the skins burst, and the wine is spilled, and the skins are destroyed; but new wine is put into fresh wineskins, and so both are preserved.”

Mark 2:18-22

Now John’s disciples and the Pharisees were fasting; and people came and said to him, “Why do John’s disciples and the disciples of the Pharisees fast, but your disciples do not fast?”  Jesus said to them, “The wedding guests cannot fast while the bridegroom is with them, can they? As long as they have the bridegroom with them, they cannot fast.  The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast on that day.  No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old cloak; otherwise, the patch pulls away from it, the new from the old, and a worse tear is made.  And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and the wine is lost, and so are the skins; but one puts new wine into fresh wineskins.”

Luke 5:33-39

Then they said to him, “John’s disciples, like the disciples of the Pharisees, frequently fast and pray, but your disciples eat and drink.” Jesus said to them, “You cannot make wedding guests fast while the bridegroom is with them, can you?  The days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them, and then they will fast in those days.”  He also told them a parable: “No one tears a piece from a new garment and sews it on an old garment; otherwise the new will be torn, and the piece from the new will not match the old.  And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; otherwise the new wine will burst the skins and will be spilled, and the skins will be destroyed.  But new wine must be put into fresh wineskins.  And no one after drinking old wine desires new wine, but says, ‘The old is good.’”

  A self-righteous, judgmental attitude can’t be patched over with a little bit of love here and there.  Love requires a whole new perspective.  If we choose to be with Jesus, we can no longer rely on our old way of seeing things. The Pharisees were big on the concept of “should.”  Thinking about what everybody “should” be doing provides a false sense of clarity and authority.  The concept of “should” is an abstraction that misses what is unique and special in each situation.  Thinking in terms of “should” leads to a judgmental, self-righteous attitude.  Love requires ongoing discernment as well as acceptance, openness, hope, and humility.  We never know for sure that we’ve got it right.  But to the extent that we are thinking in terms of “should,” we can be pretty sure we’re getting it wrong.  
Principles of Love:Vision; Learning; Opening; Acceptance  

Reflection/Discussion:

How and when does “should” creep into our thoughts and perspective?

Pray through the Day:

Open our eyes

To deepen our love

   

(#48) 2/17

Picking Grain on the Sabbath

Matthew 12:1-8

At that time Jesus went through the grainfields on the Sabbath; his disciples were hungry, and they began to pluck heads of grain and to eat. When the Pharisees saw it, they said to him, “Look, your disciples are doing what is not lawful to do on the Sabbath.”  He said to them, “Have you not read what David did when he and his companions were hungry?  He entered the house of God and ate the bread of the Presence, which it was not lawful for him or his companions to eat, but only for the priests.  Or have you not read in the law that on the Sabbath the priests in the temple break the Sabbath and yet are guiltless?  I tell you, something greater than the temple is here.  But if you had known what this means, ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice,’ you would not have condemned the guiltless.  For the Son of Man is lord of the Sabbath.”

Mark 2:23-28

One Sabbath he was going through the grainfields; and as they made their way his disciples began to pluck heads of grain.   The Pharisees said to him, “Look, why are they doing what is not lawful on the Sabbath?”  And he said to them, “Have you never read what David did when he and his companions were hungry and in need of food?  He entered the house of God, when Abiathar was high priest, and ate the bread of the Presence, which it is not lawful for any but the priests to eat, and he gave some to his companions.”  Then he said to them, “The Sabbath was made for humankind, and not humankind for the Sabbath; so the Son of Man is lord even of the Sabbath.”

Luke 6:1-5

One Sabbath while Jesus was going through the grainfields, his disciples plucked some heads of grain, rubbed them in their hands, and ate them.  But some of the Pharisees said, “Why are you doing what is not lawful on the Sabbath?”  Jesus answered, “Have you not read what David did when he and his companions were hungry?  He entered the house of God and took and ate the bread of the Presence, which it is not lawful for any but the priests to eat, and gave some to his companions?”  Then he said to them, “The Son of Man is lord of the Sabbath.”

  When viewed from a narrow, legal perspective, the Pharisees were absolutely right that Jesus’ disciples should not pick grain on the Sabbath.  The Ten Commandments, scripture passages, and religious tradition clearly back up their claim. 

One can be absolutely right and miss the whole point. 

 In Matthew’s version of this event, Jesus asks the Pharisees to consider the words of the prophet Hosea (6:6): “I desire mercy and not sacrifice” (The Greek term for “mercy” can also be translated as “steadfast love” - it appears in that form in Hosea).  Being “right” is an indication of a mind closed to input; “steadfast love” involves remaining open to God and all that he has created. Jesus tells us that steadfast love trumps “right” every time. 
Principles of Love:Opening; Acceptance; Vision 

Reflection/Discussion:

When does “being right” interfere with being loving?

Pray through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your love

   

(#49) 2/18

A Man with a Withered Hand

Matthew 12:9-14

He left that place and entered their synagogue; a man was there with a withered hand, and they asked him, “Is it lawful to cure on the Sabbath?” so that they might accuse him.  He said to them, “Suppose one of you has only one sheep and it falls into a pit on the Sabbath; will you not lay hold of it and lift it out?  How much more valuable is a human being than a sheep! So it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath.”  Then he said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and it was restored, as sound as the other.   But the Pharisees went out and conspired against him, how to destroy him.

Mark 3:1-6

Again he entered the synagogue, and a man was there who had a withered hand.   They watched him to see whether he would cure him on the Sabbath, so that they might accuse him.  And he said to the man who had the withered hand, “Come forward.”  Then he said to them, “Is it lawful to do good or to do harm on the Sabbath, to save life or to kill?”  But they were silent.  He looked around at them with anger; he was grieved at their hardness of heart and said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was restored.  The Pharisees went out and immediately conspired with the Herodians against him, how to destroy him.

Luke 6:6-11

On another Sabbath he entered the synagogue and taught, and there was a man there whose right hand was withered.  The scribes and the Pharisees watched him to see whether he would cure on the Sabbath, so that they might find an accusation against him.  Even though he knew what they were thinking, he said to the man who had the withered hand, “Come and stand here.” He got up and stood there.   Then Jesus said to them, “I ask you, is it lawful to do good or to do harm on the Sabbath, to save life or to destroy it?”  After looking around at all of them, he said to him, “Stretch out your hand.” He did so, and his hand was restored.   But they were filled with fury and discussed with one another what they might do to Jesus.

  Love cannot be viewed in black and white. The man with the withered hand likely had a hard time supporting himself and his family at a time when manual labor was the only option for a large majority of the population.  He probably lived a life filled with struggle and despair.  The rigid, “black and white” thinking of the Pharisees allowed no room for understanding, compassion, or empathy for this man.  Their attitude caused them to miss the spectacular joy and wonder of health restored.  It also led to a plot to destroy the most loving human being ever born - a plot to kill the son of the very God they claimed to worship. What may be absolutely right when viewed from a narrow “black and white” perspective can be absolutely wrong when viewed in full living color through a loving heart.  
Principles of Love:

Vision; Opening

Reflection/Discussion:

What draws us toward rigid thinking?

 

 Pray through the Day:

Open our eyes

To deepen our love