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Week 9 Daily Dose of Love

 

(#57) 2/26

   Blessed Are the Merciful

 

Matthew 5:7

“Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.”

 Mercy is a state of mind, not something we pull out in special circumstances.  Neither is it something that is deserved or needs to be earned.  If we desire mercy, we must be merciful.  It’s as simple as that.  No one in this world has the clarity of vision or depth of experience to be able to live without sin. Mercy starts with acceptance.  We cannot be merciful toward someone we cannot accept.  God loves us for who we are, not for how we appear, or what we do.  Sin distorts who we are.  Acceptance involves recognizing the pressures and temptations of our world - it requires a realization that, given the same background and situation, we could be pulled toward the same sin we may judge in others. Judgment is the opposite of mercy.  Judging others makes us feel righteous.  Putting another down gives us the illusion that we are raising ourselves up.  Mercy recognizes that we are all God’s children and each of us has weaknesses and faults.  Judging others leads them to defend and justify their actions while being merciful makes it more likely they will see and correct their faults Acceptance and mercy form a foundation for love.  It is impossible to be merciful without acceptance and impossible to love without forgiveness.  

Principles of Love:

Acceptance; Compassion, Forgiveness

 

Reflection/Discussion:

What are the obstacles to acceptance and mercy in our culture and community?

 

Pray through the Day:

Not my will

But yours be done

   

(#58) 2/27

   Blessed Are the Pure in Heart

 

Matthew 5:8

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”

 To “have heart” is to be motivated to continue to deal with challenges in spite of obstacles and difficulties.  Being “pure of heart” is to be motivated to do God’s will in all circumstances.   God’s will is simply that we love; that we meet the challenges of discerning how to love under the differing conditions and situations we face each day.  Learning to love involves realizing gifts and limitations while recognizing opportunities, obstacles, and timing. 

The greatest impediment to a pure heart is ego and selfishness.  Certainty that we are following God’s will is a sign that our motivation is being contaminated by ego.  We like to think that God has a “plan” for us and we simply need to see and follow it as if we were reading a map.  But a map has only two dimensions while love is multidimensional.  Purity of heart gives us the flexibility to change direction as needed, to recognize what might be behind, under, around, or above us so that we can respond with the pure motivation of God’s love.

 God is less interested in what we do than in how we do it.  The pure of heart keep ego out of the way and bring God’s love to every situation and circumstance.  

Principles of Love:

Humility; Decision; Opening; Commitment

 

Reflection/Discussion:

When is it most difficult to be pure of heart?

 

Pray through the Day:

Help us be humble

So we may love

   

(#59) 2/28

   Blessed Are the Peacemakers

 

Matthew 5:9

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.”

 The “peacemakers” are those who make peace.  The first six beatitudes prepare us to receive and extend God’s love.  This one challenges us toward responsibility and effective action. It is not enough to simply be peaceful, or to desire or advocate for peace to fulfill this beatitude.  Being a peacemaker implies that we succeed in spreading the peace of Christ in our world.  Loving others is the only means to dependable peace.  True, lasting peace requires us to live in God’s love.  Any other approach may bring superficial, temporary peace, but only love brings peace that endures. 

How and whether to love is a conscious choice that must be made moment-to-moment.  It is a choice that many in our world do not make and this causes great pain and suffering.  This creates thousands of opportunities for us to make peace in our world .  At this moment we only need to choose one.  And then we choose another, and then another...

  

Principles of Love:

Decision, Compassion, Unity; Forgiveness; Acceptance; Learning; Vision

 

Reflection/Discussion:

What might help us to be more effective peacemakers in our daily lives?

 

Pray through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love

  

(#60) 3/1

   Blessed Are Those Who Are Persecuted

 

Matthew 5:10-12

“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

 

Luke 6:22-23

“Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude you, revile you, and defame you on account of the Son of Man.  Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for surely your reward is great in heaven; for that is what their ancestors did to the prophets.”

 

This beatitude expresses the deepest and highest level of love.  To choose love in spite of rejection, humiliation, pain, and/or abandonment gives us a glimpse of the love that Jesus has for us. 

  

Principles of Love:

Decision; Acceptance; Suffering; Opening; Vision; Forgiveness

 

Reflection/Discussion:

How do we choose love when impulses and pressure pull us in the opposite direction?

 

Pray through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love

   

(#61) 3/2

  Woe To You Who Are Rich

 

Luke 6:24

“But woe to you who are rich, for you have received your consolation.”

 Being rich creates four major obstacles to love: First, the process of acquiring and managing wealth can easily consume all of one’s time and energy, leaving little room for God in lives that are already overfull.   Second, the rich tend to be exclusive - they often have limited contact with, or awareness of those who suffer and struggle to survive in this world.  This limits opportunities for compassion and solidarity with “the least” of God’s children.  Third, being rich makes it very easy to find diversions that separate us from the suffering or longing that draws us toward God.  And, fourth, acquiring more and more nice things that bring temporary satisfaction leads to materialistic thinking.  Love is easily pushed aside when it requires more time and effort than our perception of the eventual payoff would justify. 

Riches are like stones in a fertile field - they impede the ability for love to take root, grow, and deepen.  When being rich becomes an end in itself, it is like paving the fields of our hearts with stone.  The seeds of God’s love have a hard time penetrating the surface.  The light of his compassion is blocked, and the living water of eternal life flows away.

  

Principles of Love:

Compassion, Vision; Learning

 

Reflection/Discussion:

What makes seeking to be rich such a strong temptation?

 

Pray through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your creation

   

(#62) 3/3

  Woe To You Who Are Full Now

 

Luke 6:25a

“Woe to you who are full now, for you will be hungry.”

God needs room to move in our lives.  He recedes into the background as schedules, stomachs, and senses become overwhelmed by more and more stuff.  A life that is full to overfilling leads to a spiritual indigestion which interferes with our ability to give and receive love.  

Love only deepens as we empty ourselves of diversions and distractions that bring temporary fulfillment.  When being full becomes a habit, love is crowded out and our lives become meaningless.  It is only when we empty ourselves that we can begin to recognize the fullness of God’s love for us.

  

Principles of Love:

Opening; Learning; Vision

 

Reflection/Discussion:

What makes it difficult to think in terms of “enough”?

 

Pray through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your love

   

(#63) 3/4

  Woe To You Who Laugh Now

 

Luke 6:25b

“Woe to you who are laughing now, for you will mourn and weep.”

 

Laughing at someone is the opposite of compassion, the opposite of love.  It comes from a feeling of self-satisfaction that separates us from them in a way that is hurtful and isolating.  Separating ourselves from others in this way separates us from God and his love.  And that is something to weep about.

  

Principles of Love:

Unity; Compassion

 

Reflection/Discussion:

What makes it tempting to laugh at others?

 

Pray through the Day:

Bring us together

In your love